- the biggest obstacle to increasing self awareness is avoiding discomfort of seeing yourself as you really are
- don't avoid or ignore feelings, move toward and through them
- apologies can seem whimpy or hard to do but are necessary
I need to learn this because I never step out of my comfort zone, and I usually stay in a corner, quiet without any friends because I get shy and nervous. This could help me open up more and give me more opportunities to make friends.
The second skill I need to learn would be: know who and what pushes your buttons
- knowing what pushes our buttons helps us take control of the situation and calm down
- pinpoint the exact triggers (certain people, environments)
- discovering the source of your buttons opens the door to manage your triggers
I need this because I have a short fuse and it doesn't end good. I need to learn this to keep me out of trouble and relax when something that pushes my buttons does happen.
Finally, The last skill I need is: seek feedback
- the lens you see yourself with may not give you a true picture of yourself
- the only way to get a secondary perspective is through someone else
- open yourself up to feedback from others
- get specific examples and situations so you can find similarities of how you are
I usually stick to my own opinion and I'm not always right. I might not like the other persons opinion on the matter but it would make me think about it more and what I want to do about it. I don't think of myself that I am as great as I really am. I'm really negative about myself and others opinions do matter to me.
